LESSON 21-30 – 30ty vALuable LeSSOns I wisH i LearNT in sCHOol

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…this is the conclusive part of 30ty vALuable LeSSOns I wisH i LearNT in sCHOol…the 3rd of the 3ree series expository…someone called it the deficiency of our regular educational system… find below LESSON 21-130…

21) How to deal with a CRISIS? You never know when a crisis hits you – can be personal or professional. And crisis could mean anything related to your own health or the health of a loved one or a financial crisis or a loss of employment or …. And when a crisis hits you, your life turns upside down – Your mind and emotions probably spiral in dimensions which completely catches you off-guard! And the thing about dealing with a crisis is that the more you delay any positive and constructive action, the LARGER the CRISIS gets! And does any school teach you how to deal with a crisis? Probably NOT Would it have helped if someone did? Absolutely YES! 22) How to show that we CARE? Many of us care deeply about a long of things. But find it extremely hard to express this.. And the beauty about CARING is that it is personal, emotional, very specific to a cause and subjective to an individual. And while there are many ways to show that you care.. What is most important is that you demonstrate how you really feel in front of those who matter, and in a way that they understand! And does any school teach you how to care and show that you care? Probably NOT Would it have helped if someone did? Absolutely YES! 23) The REAL meaning of RESPECT Many of us don’t really undertand what respect truly is. Both Self-Respect and Respect for others. And those who understand find it hard to translate this to action. And the thing about respect is that it has to come from within (So you can’t force yourself to respect someone), You’ve got to earn it and You’ve got to give respect to get it back! And the best explanation I’ve come across on RESPECT is No blame, No judgment, No criticism and No control – Very short but immensely profound! And does any school teach you the TRUE meaning of respect and how to demonstrate the same? Probably NOT Would it have helped if they did? Absolutely YES! 24) What and How to SHARE? Sharing is a basic human need. On a daily basis, we all share several things with others – From smiles, to words, to deeds, to gestures, to moments, to experiences, to finances, to knowledge, to wisdom, to a laugh or a meal……. But as we grow, we forget what to share with others and how to share… And many times end up paying a price for this… And does any school teach you what you should share and how to share? Probably NOT Would it have helped if they did? Absolutely YES! 25) How to set and manage expectations? From all my life experiences I can say that the primary cause for most problems in life is due to expectations – Rather our inability to set / re-set expectations of us and others; and then our inability to manage changes to these expectations over a period of time You expect someone to SAY something; they don’t – You are UPSET and that triggers a chain of negative thoughts and actions from your end You expect someone to DO something; they don’t – You are UPSET and that triggers a chain of negative thoughts and actions from your end And the thing about negativity is that Negativity breeds Negativity – certainly, rapidly and quickly! And before you realize, negativity has engulfed your life..  Not a pleasant situation to be in! And if you can figure out a way to set realistic expectations for yourself and others; and a way to effectively communicate these expectations, your life will be a lot simple, stress-free and positive! Does any school really teach you to set and manage expectations? Probably NOT Would it help if they did? Absolutely YES! 26) How to apologize? A lot of problems in life can be solved if you learn to apologize – At the right time and to the right people (people who matter). All this requires is for you to say SORRY – Sometimes you don’t feel like saying it and sometimes you need not say it.. And no matter how you say it – Most times it’s probably worth it!   And the thing about apologizing is that there is a time value to it –And so if you don’t apologize within a specific time, then chances are that the apology does not matter anymore – So people have moved on (or appear to have moved on) – and they either become indifferent to you or there’s too much emotional baggage they are holding on within which is not healthy for any individual or any relationship! The other thing about apologizing is that if you do too much of it – Again it loses its value both for yourself and those around you! Does any school really teach you when, how and to whom you should apologize? Probably NOT! Would it help if they did? Absolutely YES! 26) How to ask from Help? If you think deeply about life, you will realize that it is probably way too complex, that there several things which are beyond your comprehension and it is mind-boggling in more ways than one.  And yet whether you think or not, you will find a way to live … And as you live and sail through life, you begin to realize that while being independent is great, there are times in life when things are beyond your control because of the inherent interdependency or dependency on others. Hence, there are times when it is imperative to ask others to help you in more than one way and for more than one thing! And the reality is that for many of us, it is very difficult to ask others for help. We just can’t get ourselves to say “Please can you do this for me?”. And for many of us, asking for help is our first nature– without even trying or thinking. Both these extremes are not really beneficial for personal growth! And so knowing when to ask for help and to whom you should ask for help is both a skill and an art! Does any school really teach you when, how and to whom you can ask for HELP? Probably NOT! Would it help if they did? Absolutely YES! 28) How to find your TRUE CALLING in LIFE? Many of us sail through life without really finding our TRUE CALLING! And when you do, it’s sometimes just a little TOO LATE! Wouldn’t it be great if you figured this early in your life? Absolutely! Does any school help you figure this out? Probably NO! Would it help if they did? Absolutely YES! [Though of late, I’ve heard of several institutes across the globe enabling and facilitating this process of self-discovery! ] 29) How to live the PRESENT MOMENT to the FULLEST? The reality is that the PRESENT MOMENT is all that you’ve got.. And yet many of us spend too much time holding on to the past, or looking into the future! The best lesson of life is to Seize the MOMENT and Live life NOW! Again, does any school really teach you this? Probably NOT! Would it help if they did… Of course.. YES!!! 30) How to BREATHE? The most important requirements of every cell in the human body are Oxygen, Food, Water and how to excrete waste. Along the journey of life, we’re taught what and how to eat right, the importance of replenishing yourself with water and fluids and of course, we naturally eliminate waste from the body in one of many ways! But what provides your OXYGEN? Evidently, it is your BREATH. And whether or not you realize this – The reality is that if you figure out how to breathe RIGHT – You’re life will be transformed. Simply because, breathing RIGHT ensure that there is optimal flow of “Prana” / Life energy within your body and that leaves you feeling more energized, active and of course, in control of your thoughts and emotions! Does any school really teach you how to BREATHE RIGHT? Probably NOT! Would it help if they did… Absolutely YES!!! What about you?

What are the Lessons of Life NO SCHOOL really TAUGHT YOU? Leave a comment to let me know

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