Being Introverted is not a Spell


Dear CoachFaith, I was invited for an interview with a leading commercial bank, and one of the questions they practically repeated for all the candidates was… “Would you consider yourself an extrovert or introvert” Quite frankly, I am an introvert but that’s the problem. I don’t have so much point to prove that being introverted is a plus. I saw disapproval on the panel’s faces as I made my case. Can we all be extroverts and what are likely advantages on being introverted. – Shola, Lagos.

Dear Sola, You don’t need to apologise to any one for being whom you are made to be. I quite agree that the extrovert traits are overrated especially in the corporate world,  but there are equally more strength in the introvert as their extrovert counterpart where they know such strengths and work at it. Check out 15 Things Introverts Don’t Do At Work That Makes Them Excel by LifeHackers to boost you case next time you are faced with similar questions at interviews.

The debate on extrovert and introvert has been there for ages and it’s actually going nowhere. Like many stereotypes, we haven’t been able to get into a conclusion.
Ever since Carl Jung first started giving people their personality types, there’s been a divide between the introvert and extrovert camps. It’s possible to bridge that gap, though. Well, on a
Quora thread, Kelly La Rue debusted the myths on introverts.
Myth 1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
Debusted- This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth 2 – Introverts are shy.
Debusted – Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth 3 – Introverts are rude.
Debusted – Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth 4 – Introverts don’t like people.
Debusted – On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth 5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Debusted – Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth 6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Debusted – Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth 7 – Introverts are weird.
Debusted – Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myths 8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Debusted – Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them; it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth 9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Debusted – Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth 10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Debusted – A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. ntroverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the degree of Introversion increases with IQ.

  1. Leave a comment

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: