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PICTURE OF THE DAY:
This Virgin Airlines employee was caught NAPPING on the office couch when his billionaire boss, Sir Richard Branson stopped by for a visit. But the boss said it was ok because he was only on standby and was getting some much-needed rest!
This is so wonderful that a boss Sir Richard Branson cared enough to understand his employee deserved a much needed rest. There are not many bosses that would understand this. I think this boss deserves a standing ovation. God bless you Sir Branson. It’s cool that Sir Branson has a great attitude about it all, but I would be so disappointed that I was asleep, when one of the BEST CEO’s in history took a selfie with me, and I wasn’t conscious enough to be in that moment!
However, it’s funny how majority of the comments about this on social media are about people wishing they would have a boss like Sir Richard Branson but not aspiring to be a better boss like/than him!
How can you be like him? Simple, just realize we are all humans!
My #PersonalitySeries for #March is dedicated to my loving Dad on his Birthday!
Let’s start with this? It my Dad’s Birthday and mine is just around the corner. You might just get to know my DAD’s age by knowing mine or vice-versa! Solve the word problem below:
The age of a Pastor added to twice the age of Coach give 117, in 2011 the sum of the ages of Pastor and Coach is 78. Find the ages of Pastor and Coach as at 2016. Prize awaits the first 3 correct answers!
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Have you ever been in the same office, adjacent cubicle or on the same table at a restaurant with this annoying colleague who snores at the slightest nap, wears an irritating perfume, chews loudly, makes endless phone calls or who just can’t stop clicking her pen as if on purpose.
Even though these are minor things, if you told someone about them, they’d say you’re severely exaggerating. Things can sometimes get out of proportion and you may find yourself seriously working on how to deal with them.
I am currently dealing with one too. Pregnant ‘people’ at Work. ‘People’ not ‘women’ because this day you need to have the eye of an Eagle to differentiate some men’s protruding stomach from a woman’s pregnant stomach. So treat everybody nicely at first contact and take your time to observe! #Lol
However, I am blessed to have two ‘loaded‘ women in my office, one behind and another in front of me. Let me say I had to reposition my desk to back one as my salivary gland became unnecessarily hyper-active, say in solidarity with her pregnancy-spitting-ritual…unknown to me that the one I was facing had taken in too. Eureka! Read the rest of this entry »
Here are seven top tips for going from where you are to where you want to be…to have a happy ever-after!
1. Develop a circle of close associations who cherish working on values and goals instead of sharing problems and difficulties. Help others on a daily basis by becoming a role model for an ethical hard working individual. Work on becoming more optimistic by eliminating cynicism from your life and conversations.
2. Your vocabulary matters. When you speak positive, uplifting thoughts, when you compliment others, when you stop cursing and start praising, it uplifts you into a more positive human being. Write down negative phrases you say each day and “reframe” them into a more positive outlook on life.
3. Practice the ability to accept change, and risk what you are passionate about achieving. Start with small goals you know you can achieve. This will build your self- confidence and give you the courage to risk bigger and more joy inducing, long term thrills. Progress is the key to happiness so gain more knowledge and strive to learn new skills on a weekly basis. Create a compelling future for yourself.
4. Trust your own intuition. Believe in yourself. Associate with positive, uplifting people, think and exude positive thoughts and attitudes. Act enthusiastic and you’ll train your brain to be enthusiastic. Be confident and build good relationships with people. Be fortunate for who you are and where your dreams can take you.
5. Embrace the law of attraction as it responds the way your mind works; your subconscious cannot interpret negativity. Therefore when you hear yourself making comments that include “don’t,” “won’t,” “can’t,” or “no,” you are actually giving your mind the attention to dwell on these negative emotions. You attract to your life whatever you give your attention, energy and focus to, wanted or unwanted.
6. Get in the habit of writing, calling or e-mailing at least 4 notes per day, simply saying thank you, getting back in touch or offering help to someone in need. Apply your faith in what is good in the world and pass it on to someone else.
7. Educate yourself on the pitfalls we face as a society as to why young people turn to drugs to alcohol to escape painful feelings and memories. Understand that spirituality and faith, family and high self-esteem are the cornerstones for living a happy, successful life.
I hope these help, They help me and I am grateful for the opportunity to pass them on to you.
Thank you for reading this and speak to you soon, I can volunteer to send an e-book on Law of Attraction to you if you care…drop your e-mail.
All the best
Compulsions, habits, lusts, drives, desires, indulgences, appeals, fascinations or attractions…it doesn’t matter what you call it. We all have them those things that make us feel like we can’t exist without them. Like Joseph we are caught daily in the web of event that demands our opinion on-the-spot. I’ve come to tell you, there are huge benefits to us in enhancing our capacity and comfort with “no” when need be. We considered the following in the last edition ;
1. Our ability and capacity to say “no” with confidence is one of the most important aspects of creating peace and power in our lives. This is about creating healthy boundaries, honoring ourselves, and being real — it’s not about being closed, cynical, or unwilling. When we’re someone that says “yes” when we mean it and “no” when we mean it — others know they can count on us to be real, tell the truth, and come through.
2. Saying “no” with honesty and kindness is also helps to control stress, struggle, or conflict, in our lives and relationship. When we don’t say “no” in an authentic way we end up feeling burdened, resentful, and even victimized (although, ironically, we forget that we are the ones who said “yes” in the first place).
3. And, when we “no” with confidence, honesty, and compassion, we do one of the best things we can possibly do to honor and appreciate ourselves.
There are basically three forms of NO, the Unassertive, the Aggressive, and the Assertive. And of these three the best is Assertive. While the unassertive “No” is not sensible, an aggressive “No” could be an option when assertive “No” isn’t working. But it important we discuss effective strategies that make the assertive “No” easier and effectual.
Firstly, when someone makes a request, it is always ok to ask for time to think it over. In thinking it over, remind yourself that the decision is entirely up to you.
Secondly, Use your nonverbal assertiveness to underline the “No.” Make sure that your voice is firm and direct. Look into the person’s eyes as you say, “No.” Shake your head “No,” as you say, “No”.
Thirdly, if you say, “Yes,” when you want to say, “No,” you will feel resentful throughout whatever you agreed to do. This costs you energy and discomfort and is not necessary if you just say, “No” when you need to.
Fourthly, if you are saying, “No,” to someone whom you would help under different circumstances, use an empathic response to ease the rejection. For example, to your friend who needs you to keep her child while she goes to the doctor, you might say, “No, Susie, I can’t keep Billie for you. I know it must be hard for you to find someone at that time of day, but I have already made lunch plans and I won’t be able to help you.
Lastly, start your sentence with the word, “No.” It’s easier to keep the commitment to say, “No,” if it’s the first word out of your mouth.
Remember that “No,” is an honorable response; if you decide that “No” is the answer that you prefer to give, then it is authentic and honest for you to say, “No. Let’s look at some daily practical ways you can practice saying, “No,” so that it comes more naturally to you, when you need it the most. Say “No”
To the television who disturbs your reading;
To the ” BUY 3, TAKE 1 FREE” adverts on that store;
To your friends who carelessly ask for your time;
To one extra hour of sleeping;
To the marketer who wants you to try on the shirts;
To eating excessively;
To impulse purchases;
To that time consuming seasonal movie;
To pornographic clips;
To a company of unruly friends;
To sensual touch and gestures;
Say NO to Life Wasters…they come as activities and people. May I use this this opportunity to invite you to
IMPACT WORKSHOP – March Episode. (Saturday, 8/03/14) 10 a.m.
Theme: Your TIME or Your LIFE (…a 120 Minutes summit on Time Management and life Maximazation)…don’t miss it for your Good. @ Cooperative Hall Beside General Hospital Oye-Ekiti.
Make it a project to say, “No” to something every day and when you do, notice it and give yourself credit for practicing saying such an important two letter word. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Phil.: 4:8)
I was chatting with a friend and high school mate just yesterday and queried to know how he his doing and the following
Me: Guy, how far? Where are you? What you doing now?
My Friend: Baba am doing good o. Looking for inner peace!
Me: Wow! Great pursuit!
My Friend: Yes o my brov…
INNER PEACE? It struck me like a wild jargon. In the last 24 hours I have read about 6 blog posts, 3 e-books and a YouTube teaching on finding inner peace. There are some of us that feel disillusioned at times. We can’t just explain why, we don’t have words to express what we are going through. On the other hand i would like so say ‘a perfect life doesn’t connote a peaceful life’. What the society calls perfect may not be consistent with your person. Discover yourself and find the perfect locus of your person and pursuit.
…here are practical antidotes to finding inner harmony as I have gathered from relevant materials and my comments.
1. Don’t compromise yourself in order to be liked. You’ll be liked by others (perhaps) and loathed by yourself. Don’t work at being popular, work at being you. It’s a lot easier and requires a lot less energy and acting. Don’t live a fake life!
2. Identify your core values – the things that are most important to you – and live a life in alignment with those values. That way you are being your authentic self rather than trying to satisfy somebody else’s needs, expectations, values, demands and rules. When your decisions and behaviours are a reflection of your core life values, you will be living a life of synergy, harmony and contentment, the “need” to be liked will be a non-issue.
3. Simplicity – Making thing simpler has certainly brought a lot of inner peace to my life. So, a few of my favorite suggestions on how to simplify your life:
– Use a limited to-do list. Only 2 or 3 of the most important things.
-Set limits. Set limits for daily checking of inboxes. I do it only oncea day. Set time limits for small decisions and make them within seconds after you have thought about them to avoid
procrastination and overthinking. Set time limits for tasks such as 15 minutes each day for answering emails or for using Twitter. Set a limit for commitments and say no to be able to feel less stress and produce better results.
-Remember to “keep things extremely simple”. I have written down that sentence on my white board and it is a daily and constant reminder that helps me when I lose my way.
4. Acceptance – “Acceptance of others, their looks, their behaviors, their beliefs, bring you an inner peace and tranquility” anonymous – instead of anger and resentment.” When you accept what is you stop feeding energy into resisting what is. You don’t make a problem more powerful and sticky in your mind. Instead, somewhat counter intuitively, when you accept what is it loses much of its power. It just is. And you feel stillness inside. Now, accepting what is doesn’t mean to give up. It just means that you put yourself in a better position take action if necessary. Because now you can see more clearly, you can focus your energy towards what you want and take the appropriate action to change your situation.
5. Forgive – By accepting what is it is much easier to let go of things and to forgive what has happened. Forgiveness is important because as long as you don’t forgive someone you are linked to that person. Your thoughts will return to the person who wronged you and what s/he did over and over again. The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you, when you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself free too from all of that agony. One thing to keep in mind is to not just forgive others but also yourself. By forgiving yourself – instead of resenting yourself for something you did a week or 10 years ago – you make the habit of forgiveness more and more of a natural part of you. And so forgiving others becomes easier too.
6. Do what you love – When you do what you enjoy there is a natural peace that arises within. You are in alignment with your outer world. This also leads to a lot more success than if you have a lot of inner turmoil and really don’t care that much for your work. One of my favorite tips for finding things you enjoy or love doing is simply to explore life. To be curious and try things out and see what you think of them. This can bring many insights both about yourself and about how things really are when you do them rather than when they are just theories floating around in your head.
7. Celebrate your faith – Determine to be an adherent follower of your faith’s injunctions. Man is as much a spirit being. Your ultimate inner peace stems from harmony in your inner man – your spirit. Be a diligent professor of your faith: Learn and grow in it and daily you’ll come closer to perfection. Celebrating your faith saves you from a whole lot of confusion about issues of life and you can really on greater forces to come to your rescue when life’s tsunami range, they sure do.
You crown the year with Your goodness,
and Your paths drip with abundance
They drop on the pastures of the wilderness,
and the little hills rejoice on every side.
( Psalm 65:11-12 *NKJV )
As we come to the end of another year, let us pray that 2014
will be a year filled with love, hope, and peace.
Now when it comes to love; this commandment we
have from Him: that he who loves God must love
his brother also; Above all, love each other
deeply, because love covers over a multitude of
sins. ( 1 John 4:21 ) ( 1 Peter 4:8-9 )
As for hope; hope does not disappoint us, because
God has poured out His love into our hearts by the
Holy Spirit, whom He has given us. For whatever
things were written before were written for our
learning, that we through the patience and
comfort of the Scriptures might have hope.
( Romans 5:5 ) ( Romans 15:4 )
Regarding peace; Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything, by prayer and petition, with
thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And
the peace of God, which transcends all
understanding, will guard your heart and your
mind in Christ Jesus. ( Philippians 4:6-7 )
Finally my friend; Now may the God of hope fill
you with all joy and peace in believing, that you
may abound in hope by the power of the Holy
Spirit. ( Romans 15:13 )
May you have a safe and Happy New YearsEve,
and let us all say a Prayer that 2014 will be a year of peace
and joy. Amen